NEWSFLASH– it takes quite a bit of EXTRA effort to be a good mom.
Ok, a TON of effort.
Last night I was on my iPad while Michael was watching the Cowboys game. We both know this isn’t exactly “quality time” but it’s a way for us both to unwind and relax.
We are working on developing our talks, interaction and quality time in other ways!
Anyway, I was getting so excited because I found a number of mom bloggers out there.
These aren’t just the mommy bloggers who dump photos of their little kiddos.
These are the super moms.
They are the ones who take the time to SHARE THE LOVE with the rest of us.
They have spent time developing activities you can do with toddlers. They post pictures, tell you the supplies you need, and they keep it all reasonable. They know that a toddler’s attention span is only 10 mins max. That’s why they share HUNDREDS of ideas and even link up with other mommy bloggers.
I was so happy.
It’s the little EXTRA.
I know I’m a good mom, because I care. Most moms DO care, but it goes beyond caring.
It takes that something extra.
It takes real work. It takes experimenting and learning how to make every day count.
It’s hard to entertain a toddler for 8-10 hours EVERY DAY.
Especially, THIS one!
Sometimes I wish I was an El Ed major…
I have no clue how daycare people survive. (more on that later… I have a hard time splitting my attention with MY two kids, let alone 10-20. Props to them.)
Anyway, this mom business takes planning and a lot more effort to do.
Consider the amount of effort it takes to learn numbers, or paint, or develop a sensory activity compared to just turning on Dora or a movie.
Let’s be honest.
It’s a struggle for me to think of cool ideas. Carmen is rarely interested and usually is over it by the time I collect all the supplies.
On the way home from the park yesterday, I picked up some leaves.
I went through this EXTRA effort to find some toddler crafts involving leaves that she’d like, and then today….
It didn’t go as planned.
She’s into wearing dresses. EVERY DAY.
So when I had her put on one of my t-shirts so she wouldn’t ruin her dress, she thew a fit.
She wore it, because that’s the kind of mom I am, but it threw off the groove.
Anyway, it just made me think… that’s a lot of EXTRA effort that wasn’t really worth it!
Here she is posing after, all innocent….
But guess what? It is. It’s worth it.
I really do think it is. Because it was different.
Those type of activities are the ones she STILL talks about.
Like when we made an ABC book, or “looked for treasure” in a bin outside.
I just have to remember that even if she’s throwing a fit DURING it. Maybe, just MAYBE she’ll turn the corner.
I guess my girl just likes to brag to her dad and friends about the cool stuff she does.
I’m just trying to remember that it’s all worth it. Maybe not for the praise and the thank-yous that my daughter gives me, but for the type of woman I’m becoming.
The one by your side, coloring, on the floor, telling silly jokes, playing with puppets and making every day count.
Playing at the park…
Or just playing with “Tinker” or “Bobo” our puppets!
I want to be a GREAT mom. The one that really cares.
Not just to post my totally cool kid activity on Instagram or brag on Facebook or a blog…but beyond that.
Creating a relationship of learning with my children.
Caring and putting that EXTRA in, so I can be a GREAT mom.
Not just in words, but in actions.
Here’s to us moms, trying to do a little extra.
I’m here with ya.