I have been hesitant to invade this part of Jill’s world. This is her domain. She is an excellent writer and has inspired all of her followers (including me) for over a year now through her word posts. A little while ago Jill asked me if I would write a guest post… so here I am… knees trembling and all.
I realize most of you might simply know me as Jill’s husband or may have just seen pictures or heard of me through this blog. And that is perfectly fine by me. Jill, as the super wife she is, has graciously portrayed me as her fairytale prince. I am not sure if I meet all the requirements of a prince but I do know that to be a prince, you must marry a princess…and that is one thing I have done. I married my princess 3 years ago. Isn’t she stunning?!…
After a wonderful but quick 3 years of marriage, we now have two daughters. For those of you keeping track, that is 1 guy to 3 girls. I absolutely love Jill and my daughters are the cutest little munchkins. They are my life and I feel so blessed to a husband and father to them.
But before getting married and having kids, I assumed as a dad I would be able to re-live all the things I loved growing up – ninja turtles, soccer, Tom and Jerry cartoons, basketball games in the parking lot, K2 roller blades and roller hockey, basketball trading cards, hot wheels, video games, all kinds of sports, Pogs and super soaker water guns – Nothing could be farther from that right now.
Our house is already overflowing with bracelets, princess dresses, Dora the Explorer, tutus, bling, lip gloss, hot pink colors, a Disney princess kitchen, brushes, bows, princess sing-along songs and dancing, sparkles, make-up, panties, curls, ribbons, perfume, manicures and pedicures, necklaces, purses, sunglasses and coloring books.
And I am totally fine with that. In fact, I am loving it! I have so much fun with my girls.
My dad is a great dad. He has counseled other parents for years, encouraging them to ‘get in the boat with their children,’ meaning they need to find out what their children’s hobbies are and get involved.
As a small example, I have a younger sister and when she was in high school she liked to watch a particular reality TV show. My dad, in an effort to ‘get in the boat with her,’ would sit on the couch next to her and watch this show. And for those of you who don’t know my dad that was a huge deal. He refers to most reality shows as ‘trash TV’ and would much rather watch Fox News or the History Channel or AMC but he was building a relationship with his daughter.
He had one more thing in common with her, something they could casually talk about and look forward to watching together. That is a great dad!
As a Father’s Day gift this year, my parents gave me a book entitled Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters. I strongly recommend this book to any father with young daughters and I guess Dave Ramsey does as well.
I have always wanted to be involved in my children’s life but after reading this book, I understand a little more why it is so important to provide the right amount of support, love, counsel and discipline while maintaining an open, two-way communication stream. There is so much filth out there in the world waiting to corrupt my little angels. I jokingly (and then not-so-jokingly) tell Jill I don’t want to let them leave the house. I just want to lock them in their room and keep them from pop culture, mainstream media and peer pressure.
I mean…look at those faces.
Thankfully we have great counsel from inspired people. See what Elaine S. Dalton had to say about how a father can raise a happy, well-adjusted daughter in today’s increasingly toxic world.
Jill is an amazing mother and I am lucky to be in the parenting trenches with her.
Best of luck to all you parents, especially dads or future dads.